Are you my friend? – News from Taketomi, GSpot and some thoughts on blogging

Hey peeps!

I wanted to say something that really irked me since a while. Recently I heard from a lot of creators all over the place that bloggers ask them for free stuff. Here is the thing: If you have a bit of integrity, you do not ask, UNLESS the creator makes it obvious that you can ask (in their profile etc.). Even then there should be a certain limit of items you ask for. Bloggers have bad reputation as it is (only wanting to blog to get free stuff etc.) and I do not think supporting that kind of behaviour helps the blogger-designer relationship at all. Not even if a designer is your friend. Which friend of yours would -really- deny giving you their created items for free even if they wanted to? It’s a really bad situation you put them in.

Fact is, if someone likes your blog, they will hand you the items. If someone wants you to blog for them, they will invite you or accept your application. Begging/asking for items though when the designer shows NO sign of being approchable in that regard, is really bad style. If you blog to get items for free or to become ‘famous’, that is certainly no good idea at all and only annoys those you seek to impress. It takes patience and not a myriad of IMs to all kinds of creators.

Now on to more positive things! 😀

The hair!

Bella Earst of Taketomi has released a hair that really caught my eye on Skye Everidge’s head. Usually, Taketomi always looks a little too big on my head and the textures are, much like Eater’s Coma, a little too dry imho. BUT! This style is really, really lovely. I am wearing the Red 2 tone andI love how gently it falls down over my shoulders. As per usual, the other two styles that have been newly released, were a little too big on me, but this one is just really nice. Also, the price of 200 Lindens for five tones seems very fair.

The headpiece!

Jalilah Jewell of GSpot is ever improving her mesh skills! I am so happy to observe how far she has come over the past year. I have always liked her textures, but now she makes her own mesh as well! The headpiece I am wearing will be released relatively soon and is actually a hairnet, however, I lowered it some since my hair was a bit too poofy for it. I love, love the details on this one, the tiny pearls and miniature chainlinks. 🙂 The style is very elegant and can be combine diwht a lot of hairs if you lower the piece justa  little. Otherwise, you will have to search for a hair that allows you to display the full hairnet on top, which is a little difficult. But..I love! 🙂

Hair: Taketomi, Namie, Red02 (Bella Earst, Mesh!! NEW!!)
Ears: Illusions, Drow Ears (Siyu Suen, Mesh!!)
Eyes: Umeboshi, Cloudy Lenses, Duo Blue (Keiba Resident, Mesh!! NEW!! @ The Season Story!!)
Lashes: Snow Rabbit, R6 v. 1.00, attach to nose (Shirousagi Noel , Mesh!!)
Hands: Slink, elegant (Siddean Munro, Mesh!!)
Harness: Soedara, Here comes Wicked, eart (Marbella Pronovost, Mesh!!)
Corset /w blouse: Junbug, Mayfly Corset Top, Arica’s Earth (Juno Mantel, NEW!! Mesh!!  @ WE LOVE RP!!)
Skirt: Tres Blah, Leather Skirt, brown (Juliette Westerburg, NEW!! Mesh!! @ Collabor88!!)
Pants: Zenith, Draped Trousers, chocolate (Miffyhoi Rosca)
Socks: Fashionably Dead, Knigh High Mesh Socks, brown (Toast Bard, Mesh!!)
Boots: Stitched, The Doubled Boots, brown/black (Adele Bumblefoot, Mesh!!)
Belt: Ingenue, Bertille Belt, coffee (Betty Doyle, Mesh!!)
Bracers: Bitch, Armor Bracers, Leather (Maxwell Graf, Mesh!!)
Legarmor/upper arm: B@rerose, Warrior Lady (June Dion, Mesh!!)
Wreadth: LeLutka, Alvina Hair (Thora Charron, Mesh!!)
Headpiece: GSpot, Ghaaliyas Gems, Hairnet Gold RARE (Jalilah Jewell, Mesh!! Coming Soon!!)
Necklace: The Forge, Evenlyn’s Necklace, bronze (Deccan Arida, Mesh!! NEW!! @ 30L RFL Fair!!)
Necklace: Yummy!, Tiny Acorn Necklace, gold (Polyester Partridge, NEW!! Mesh!! @ Collabor88!!)
Ring(Left): MishMash, Honey BooBoo Ring (Lena MacBain)
Ring (right): MG, Atlantis Moon Ring, gold (Maxi Gossamer, Mesh!!)
Bracelet: Kahli Designs, Arm Torc, gold (Kahli Designs Resident/Viland Resident, Mesh!! NEW!! 50L @ WE LOVE RP!!)
Bow: LR Weapons, Nightdale Bow (Larion Rhode, Mesh!!)
Poses: Kirin Poses, Autumn Breeze Pack (Carolina Sautereau, @ The Season Story!!)
Location: Lennon Park Massacre (non-Role-Play),LennonParkOnTheRock


11 thoughts on “Are you my friend? – News from Taketomi, GSpot and some thoughts on blogging

  1. Begging is so unbecoming. In all forms. I blog for myself and for the joy of finding cool things. I’m small time and like it that way. Love your blog. It’s so refreshing to see the looks you come up with ❤

    1. Thank you so much! And well technically there is nothign wrong with blogging ‘to be seen’. Just this whole “I have a blog gimme free stuff naow!” stuff really irks me.

      1. Oh my comment wasn’t meant to mean that it’s not ok to be seen. I’m just sooo lazy and have an average computer. I don’t even have shadows 😦 My words just don’t seem to make sense sometimes.

      2. I must agree with your comment, I’ve had that done to me, and I’ve even had some people rage / unfriend me cause of it. Specially funny when the person has never blogged before nor had a blog, plus the fact of how the person had treated me before in the past… Just no.

  2. I do share with you the same opinion you expressed here about bloggers. People should respect the creators work and it’s a shame that some bloggers take advantage of that. Remember that is someone that put hours of work in the most simple bracelet even if they do it as a hobbie or pleasure.
    The creator should be the one “connecting” with the blogger based the way they blog, write and the way the pictures are taken.
    Shame of the ones taking advantage of this just to get free stuff!!!

    1. I agree. It is pretty stupid, too, because their own bad reputation often gets generalized and applied to all other bloggers as well. There have been very few times (I can recall two) I asked for a copy and ONLY if I were clearly invited to do so by the creator beforehand (i.e. bc they had no bloggers group etc.). I think it is super awkward to ask for stuff in general and especially if your blog is new and fresh you’d do well to show some work and enthusiasm before you go around to beg. :/

  3. There’s a distinct line between ‘genuine interest in a person’s creations VS ’blogging to get free sh*t’ and I don’t blame some creators for being ‘narky’ towards those who push to get ‘freebies’. That said, If I really admire someone’s work (and I’ve done this a couple of times) I will send the creator a really polite notecard asking them “If and when space opens on their list of bloggers, that I would love to be considered.” I do however feel strongly about the current ‘trend’ of *using and abusing* and it really irritates me when I see close friends of mine being ‘used’ or ‘put on the spot’ by people demanding their creations just because they made a blog.
    I’m fortunate in that over the years, I’ve been able to share in some friend’s ‘creative processes’. Some of them have specifically asked me to ‘ask’ for the products I would like, rather than spamming my inventory – so in that respect I think there’s a place for asking, but it’s most definitely not in grovelling or in demanding items from a creator that has not invited you to do such.
    Instead, reach into your pocket and BUY their items to blog and be sure to send them a link to your post. If they really like it, who knows, they may even choose to send you items.

    1. I think you worded it really well, and I have observed the same with friends of mine (probably common ones, haha) who create things to sell them. Unless they specifically invite you to ask, do NOT ask but god damn pay for it if you actually like it so much. And I find it ridiculous to ‘blackmail’ people with this whole “If I wasn’t blogging your stuff you wouldn’t be so popular”-nonsense. Quality in the end succeeds, wether or not you put it on your lame blog doesn’t really matter.

    2. Like Imogen said, I’ve been put on the spot way too many times by bloggers. They seem to assume that because they are blogging for a particular event im in that it gives them the right to blatantly say ‘Oh you didn’t give me your items to blog yet’. Me being a -Relatively- Generous person normally hands stuff over, but still. I find it really rude and it makes me feel awkward. I didnt think that being part of an event meant i had to give free stuff out?

      1. Giving stuff out should always be done voluntarily, never forced. Both who you choose as a blogger for your items (or which designer you wish to blog for) and what you give out (if anything at all) should always be left up to the creator. They own it and they own the rights to their creation, no one else.

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